How Do You Push on a Rope?

Dealing with passive/aggressive situations has always baffled me and pissed me off to the max! There is no winning this game.

I am talking about building our house, of course. And you thought I wouldn't rant and rave anymore. This is good news for you sickos and bad news for you more genteel readers.

What exacerbates it all, is that we have had 2 spurts of activity on the house (we're talking about 2 weeks only), which breeds hope, that devil of all emotions. If everything was in the toilet, I would know where we stand. But this, get some good things done and then NOTHING...I can't take it!

What is worse is that Yella and I are getting into it over how to handle the builder. She wants to hammer him and I want to nurse him along. To her credit, I have been teasing him along and you know how that's been going, so it's time for another approach.

I just don't think it will get any different results and may create legal or social issues in a foriegn land. What the hell, you only live once so I think we will let it rip!

The ultimatum...

We give him till September 1st to finish everything, complete. He either gets his final payment or we hire someone else to finish the house and deduct our expenses from his final payment.

Probably sounds like this is long over due to you. In the USA, I would agree fully. But we are in a foriegn land, with strange legal ramifications where who you know by far out weighs the intent of the law. We don't know any judges and I'm sure he does. He has a brother, sister, uncle, father, cousin or friend in everything.

Well, who knows, maybe it will work out and we won't have to face any trouble. That would be the best outcome. In our house on September 1st. One can only hope. There is that hope trap again.

In the mean time, Yella and I had to pull out all our training and past personal work to deal with our conflict. Thank God we have some!

I enjoy challenges but I have to admit, this one is too threatening for me.